Many quotes in which we litter social media are in regard to our past. The advice we tend to give a friend or a loved one reflects the concept of looking forward. Moving on to the next without peeking back. We are all so quick to forget.
Our past is responsible for right now and has the greatest influence on the future.
Prior relationships, experiences, decisions and mistakes are something we shouldn't ignore, let alone encourage others to forget. They are the stepping-stones that remind us what we want out of life. Simply because the past wasn't the finish line doesn't mean we can't celebrate, let alone recognize it.
We continue to evolve and grow on a daily basis. Our wants and desires change with the seasons. That 7th grade romance didn't end with the electric slide at a wedding reception for a reason. But you'd be a fool to believe that puppy love didn't help clear your vision for what you now look for in a significant other. Much like that entry-level position gave you enough exposure to question if it were a desirable career path.
I suppose there is a certain level of comfort that accompanies shutting the door to our past. We see it as a room full of failure. Failed romances, employment, friendships, and advancement opportunities that we'd rather not have a scrapbook to reflect upon.
This doesn't mean a quick reminder isn't beneficial from time to time. The pain and anguish that accompanies certain aspects of our past encourages us from making the same mistakes. Simply forgetting the past opens an additional door to potentially repeating prior offenses.
Maybe this is where we as a society go wrong. Pinpointing the damaged corner on a masterpiece that took years to create. The focal point should be the beauty and precision of each stroke. The small detail required to spawn such a piece of work. Instead, we allow the single flaw to attract the majority of our attention. Much like the artist notices his own imperfection that is invisible to the naked eye, we believe the rest of the world is fully aware of our mistakes.
It takes strength, but far less energy to focus on the positives of the journey than the negative outcome of a destination. If you take enough time to sit and reflect on the past that you were advised to forget, you'd realize there are far more smiles than frowns. We've just been conditioned to believe that the frowns are supposed to leave the lasting impression.
Embrace yesterday, seize today, and anticipate tomorrow.