Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Shutting Down



We have become a society fixated on technology and multitasking. Constantly over-glorifying our busy schedules and the amount of stress we manage on a daily basis. Our competitiveness restricts our mind and body from one of their most natural functions, simply shutting down.

The unlimited abundance of knowledge forever at our fingertips results in a consistent question mark lingering above our head. Social media has opened the door to debates without boundaries, decisions without repercussions, and opinions without credibility. Streaming newsfeeds to educate ourselves on world news, sporting scores, entertaining articles, pop culture and sometimes, the food our friends are seconds from devouring control our lives.

That's without mentioning the anticipation that accompanies actually posting something of your own. How many likes, comments, replies, retweets, favorites or shares will you receive? How many times will you check your phone looking forward to a notification that somehow, now signifies there are people who like you and what you had to say.

I'm guilty. I don't think twice before admitting I'm on my iPhone/laptop/iPad more than I should. I even catch my thumb checking different apps, simply out of habit. Hoping the swiping comes to a stop as I find something interesting enough to catch my attention for a mere second.

It's hard to determine exactly why we are constantly updating our newsfeeds, checking our email, or browsing the "on line". I'm not sure if it is the gratification that someone is paying attention to us or if we sincerely thrive off proving our lives are much better than theirs. So much so, that we consume the majority of that time snapping photos in attempt to take the perfect image that captures the moment. Rather than intimately enjoying that brief time period with those present, we seek approval from friends and followers whom we think so highly not to invite or couldn't attend because they were, "too busy."

What an insulting excuse.

I appreciate life because we have the ability to choose and the mental capacity to prioritize. In my mid-20's I have found making time is a continuous challenge that will only increase in difficulty. Families, careers, friends and hobbies each deserve a respectable amount of time. To be honest, I never want to be "too busy" to make time for the things that are important to me.

Simply saying we are too busy for the sake of coming off as important or active is a joke. Why glorify stress? To feel as if you are competing in a rat race of your very own? In the end no one wins. Whether you're being honest or not, your high level of stress will only result in a lower quality of life. It's necessary we find outlets to recharge our mind, body and soul to ensure they're at full capacity to handle the wear and tear that comes with the daily grind.

We should all possess goals and ambitions. We should all bust our ass to attain them. But to neglect your mind and body by not shutting it down every once and a while will result in you coming up short. Find some type of release that briefly disconnects you from the rest of the world. Search for that one thing that clears your mind and allows your brain to focus solely on it's own thoughts rather than the overwhelming amount of information coming through a LED screen.

As quick as we are to run for a charger when our phone reaches 1%, you would think we'd have the same urgency when our bodies do the same.

Disconnecting from constant technology and scheduling is difficult. It's a battle I fight on a daily basis. But change only comes with sacrifice. A sacrifice I'm willing to make to ensure a quality life. Because at the end of each day, you come that much closer to death. And remember, there's no such thing as being "too busy" to die.

Enjoy all the world has to offer.


Please share this on your own newsfeed. Hopefully it's enough to catch someone's eye long enough to stop their scroll.










Friday, April 25, 2014

Let it Go



There are certain aspects in life that are simply out of our hands.

The unfortunate declining health of loved ones, rainy mornings, and yellow stop lights are all inevitable forecasts in life. We have no control over this. Our best option is to flip the script and turn negatives into positives.

That your loved ones have been fortunate to live long enough to see a gradual decline in overall health. They've spent years wearing smiles and decades painting smiles on the faces of others. That the rain will be followed with a rainbow and sunshine. Each dreadful drop of water has fallen with a purpose, to give life to aspects of our days that we take for granted. That the yellow light may force us to tap our brakes providing enough time to finish listening to our favorite song on the radio. Or it may give us a few more minutes with a love interest before saying goodbye.

There is no such thing as bad luck. Sure, there may be trials and tribulations, but they aren't racist, prejudice, or even sexist. We are all forced to face certain challenges in life. This is what separates us from all other species. Our emotions, mental capacity and responsibility for others often makes it difficult to deal with complications that arise.

Things happen in which we are required to be strong for others who are weak. We mask fear and sadness with smiles and slight head nods to prevent any indication that we aren't putting one foot in front of the other.

I've realized the older we get, the harder certain choices become. Reactions can no longer be strictly emotional. And at the end of the day, your reaction is truly all you have when obstacles get in your way. The strong find ways to go over, around or through those obstacles… they find a way no matter what. The weak, they make excuses, ask 'why me?' and truly believe the world is out to get them.

But the strongest find a way to help the weak overcome that obstacle. They lend a hand, provide a boost, or at the very least vocally encourage them that the pain they currently feel is worth the joy that comes once they reach the other side.

Let go of the baggage that is weighing you down. Loosen your grip on all the unnecessary weight that truly brings zero value to your life. There are so many other things you can do with your hands than hold onto things that you can not control.

Lend a hand, give a high five or shake the hand of a stranger. Those 3 things are simplest ways to gift yourself inner joy.



Share this to give encouragement to someone you know who refuses to let go.

Thursday, March 27, 2014

Merry Go Round Vs Roller Coaster



As a child I had the opportunity to experience the slowest merry go rounds and the fastest roller coasters. As an adult, I've also unenthusiastically hopped onto that merry go round, wondering when the ride will end. If there is any chance of that horse galloping away from the rest of the pack seemingly content repeating the same path. Slowly turning round and round.

Around this time last year, I was actually slumped over on the merry go round of life. Working a 8 to 5 not necessarily sure if this were the life for me. My job was predictable. Flexible, yet predictable. I probably had it better than most employees. There wasn't a strict dress code, casual Fridays (which also happened to be half-day Friday's), health insurance, stability, a great boss who loved to talk sports. I even had a co-worker who seemed more like a second mom. Always asking about my weekends, knowing I probably spent them at the bar. Giving me tips on marriage and what types of women to stay away from. She even made sure the office had snacks.

It wasn't the office or the people who made this job boring. I think I understood how much I was undervaluing myself. My impact was confined within my job responsibility. I'm the kind of person who thrives off competition. I'm the guy who steps on the treadmill right next to you even though we're the only people in the gym.

My job at the time didn't excite me. I brought zero passion into the office. My days became a routine. Wake up, shower, eat, drive to the office, stare at a computer screen, leave the office, fight traffic, workout, shower, eat, dedicate a few minutes to other projects, then sleep. I eventually lost who I was. I no longer felt my face tire from smiling. Excitement was gone.

Today, I am on one hell of a roller coaster… I'm even sitting in the front seat. I don't know where the next turn is going to take me, how fast we're going, I even try anticipating when that stupid camera is going to take an unexpected picture.

There are days I wonder how I'm supposed to get through the next week. When lows come, boy do they come. But every time I feel myself stressing too much this ride of a roller coaster takes me higher than I ever imagined.

The people you meet on a roller coaster are extraordinary. They live for the thrill. They have full faith in the engineers who designed the roller coaster, the pimple faced teenager asking you to keep all limbs inside the ride at all times, even the seat belt to keep you from falling out during a loop. These passengers get on the ride knowing all along the ride is worth the wait. It's exciting. The only people who don't spend the entire ride smiling are those who are about to throw up.

We are all passengers of some sort. Some of us rely on the steady pace that a merry go round brings. Trusting the consistency of speed, mesmerized by the soft music and lights. Others seek the unknown of roller coaster tracks. Willing to take a quick deep plunge after a strong, steady and slow creep to the top.

Whichever ride you decide to take in life, be sure it brings a smile to your face. Cause much like life, the amusement park will eventually close and I hope you leave without regretting spending too much time on the wrong ride.




Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Alphabet Flash Cards - For Adults

We all remember the flash cards we used to learn the alphabet… A is for Apple… B is for Baby… C is for Carrot. These were all words we could identify with at the time. As adults, we don't necessarily focus on what we are capable of identifying with… we actually need to relearn the alphabet. Here is my attempt to change the way you think.

A. Ask - To put a question to; inquire of. Without asking, you'll forever wonder.

B. Believe - To have confidence in the truth, the existence, or the reliability of something, although without absolute proof that one is right doing so. If you don't believe, no one else will.

C. Capacity - The ability or power to do so, experience, or understand something. The ceiling is always made of glass.

D. Deliver - Bring and hand over to the proper recipient or address. If something truly matters, you want to ensure it arrives at its destination.

E. Energy - The capacity for vigorous activity; available power. Exert it where it deserves it.

F. Forgive - To grant pardon to. Forgiveness is the easiest form of revenge, just never forget. 

G. Google - The answers to many questions can be found here. Consult a doctor or lawyer when needed. 

H. Hiccup - A minor difficulty, interruption, or setback that will occur often in one's life. It will be over shortly. 

I. Illustrate - A picture intended to explain or put thoughts into context. Put it on paper so it becomes real.  

J. Joke - Something said or done to provoke laughter or cause amusement. A smile is medicine, cure the world. 

K. Keys - Something that secures or controls entrance to a place. Hang on to these, you'll need them soon.

L. Listen - To give attention with the ear. You'll learn more by saying less.

M. Marathon - Any contest or event of great, or greater than normal, length and duration. Life isn't a sprint, if so, we'd all finish dead last. 

N. Next - Immediately following in time, order or importance. Always be aware of tomorrow and what it may bring.

O. - Open - Having the interior immediately accessible. Open physical doors for others, and metaphorical doors will open for you.

R. Respond - To reply or answer in words. Never leave a question unanswered, statement unacknowledged or smile unreturned. 

S. Speak - To communicate vocally. Speak up, speak out and speak with a purpose. 

T. Trust - Reliance on the integrity, strength, or ability of a person or thing. Without it, you will live a lonely life, paranoid.  

U. Utilize - To put to use; turn to profitable account. Tools are worthless until used.

V. Value - Relative worth, merit, or importance. Every person, place or thing has value, realize what that is and use it. 

W. Work - Exertion or effort directed to produce or accomplish something. Freebies are always the first thing we throw away.

X. Xanthan - A water-soluble natural gum produced by the fermentation of sugar with certain microorganisms and used as a binder, extender, or stabilizer in foods and other products. Will come in handy when playing Words With Friends. 

Y. Yes - An affirmative reply. The most significant outcomes are a result of someone saying YES.

Z. Zero - Stands for the absence of quantity. We all begin at zero, it is the actions that follow which determines where we stand.  


Incorporate these words into your own vocabulary. You will begin to see a change.




Thursday, February 27, 2014

What the Funk



This has been one of the most miserable winters I've ever experienced. It's completely understandable to have seasonal depression. The freezing temperature, slushy sidewalks and slippery streets do everything except put a smile on your face. Netflix and hoodies seem to be the only thing that have the power to keep a brain sane.

Winter is fully capable of putting every single one of us in a mild state of depression. Without much reason to venture outside, the walls within our domicile shrink with each sunset. Our minds wonder. Distractions only come in forms of screens (computer/TV/cellphone), eyelids and staring in the fridge long enough hoping the food you desire most suddenly appears. Winter is bullshit.

We gain weight. We lose color. We think our lives are miserable and we even question whether or not we've made the right decisions to get us to this point.

I'd be lying if I said I haven't spent a few days in a funk this year. To be honest, I'd be worried if I hadn't. In my eyes, a funk is simply a stage in life when you want more out of it. More from yourself, and more out of what's in front of you. Without funks, you're completely content in life. Which should never be the case. No one is that sweet.

A funk only becomes a negative when you get it confused with depression. A state of emotional dejection and withdraw. Your funk should always be a personal matter. There's no reason for you to allow your funk to affect other people. This goes for significant others, friends, family or even the dude at the drive thru who didn't give you Fire Sauce. At the end of the day, you're the one who has to come to grips with that funk. The solution to the problem must come from within. Don't rely on others to help you get out of it. Don't become dependent on your surroundings or take advantage of those who truly care about you.

The sun actually came out today. Spring is right around the corner. Shut the funk up and be ready to blossom. The only way to feel better is to be proactive. No one feels sorry for somebody who isn't doing everything they can to improve themselves or their situation. Sulking and begging for attention should only occur in a kindergarten classroom… and I promise you those are the children who end up being the most funked up.

The opportunity to improve is everywhere. Pick your chin up so you can actually see it.





Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Cause of Cancer



We've all had the unfortunate experience of watching someone suffer from the second leading cause of death. It seems like we can't escape it. But what causes it? There's no one answer, yet everyday someone is coming forth exposing the truth of what we once thought was harmless.

Today, Nestle recalled over 238,000 cases of Hot Pocket pastries because they may contain meat that was included in the nearly 9 MILLION pounds of "diseased and unsound" beef products. Unless you are a college student or still living in your mother's basement, this is what we are feeding our youth.

Recently we've seen numerous reports exposing popular food chains and their food processing practices. Subway's sub ingredients that contain several chemicals, including Azodinacarbonamide, a substance used in yoga mats and the soles in your sneakers. Since, thanks to the help of Vani Hari and her petition, Subway has agreed to remove the harmful ingredient. I guess this is the time we thank them? I don't know what is harder to swallow, that Azodinacarbonamide is so harmful that if caught using the substance you may face a $450,000 fine and may serve up to 15 years in prison… in Singapore (yes, the same country that regularly eats pig fallopian tubes doesn't even tolerate it), or that our nation including the White House endorse Subway as a healthy choice.

Food practices in such a developed country like The United States of America seem to be subpar from the rest of the world. Simply because we have access to 'premium' cut meats and 'homegrown' fruit and vegetables doesn't mean we have access to the intended, natural nutrition. We also allow common food that is banned in other countries to be sold on our shelves. As consumers, we've been blind and uneducated.

Ol' MacDonald no longer has a farm. Instead, major corporations and food distribution centers strategically implement practices such as harmful pesticides and hormones that devalue the food but increase shelf life and maximize profit. The same practices that help contribute to air pollution.

I'm not against someone earning a dollar, but it wasn't until recently that I realized 'buyer beware' was included determining what's for dinner.

It's apparent the FDA isn't capable of protecting our health. It comes down to educating ourselves of such practices and exactly what we are putting into our bodies. Instead of congress worrying about hormones and steroids in Major League Baseball, maybe they should focus on hormones in the food we eat. Instead of worrying about the next episode of The Kardashians, maybe we should focus on keeping up with the carcinogens.

Climate change and recent research are bringing the harsh reality of our diet into question. Nothing is suddenly going to appear that will cure these problems. Food shouldn't be a science experiment. There's a reason why the number of cancer cases increases each year.

Millions upon millions are spent each year on finding a cure for cancer. It's time we take a different approach and do what we can to prevent the disease. It starts in the air we breathe, the food we eat and the water we drink. Educating yourself on the practices and actual ingredients in food processing doesn't make you a hipster, hippy, liberal, or pussy. It simply means you care more about tomorrow than today. Which is a way of life we should all embrace.

This isn't a plea for you to become a vegetarian or vegan or even a tree hugger. It's encouragement to be aware of your surroundings. A lot of you get worked up over government control, taxes and healthcare… these are all effects of a cause. Prevention is the easiest way to avoid a problem. Educate yourself! You're not only doing yourself a favor, but you're doing the person next to you a service as well.

Or are we all so naive that we don't think it will happen to us? Before you answer that question, make a list of people you personally know who have been diagnosed with cancer in the past 2 years. Make a change that will truly make a difference. Running a marathon or wearing a yellow Livestrong (made of rubber) won't protect you or your friends and family from cancer.



Friday, February 14, 2014

#BestBoyfriendEver - Which One Do You Have? Happy Valentine's Day


The #BestBoyfriendEver used to make me shake my head every year. Watching women post pictures of the lousy flowers their boyfriend gave them on Valentine's Day once pissed me off. They acted like they never received flowers before.

Now I realize how awesome it is. The fact that women appreciate their man no matter what. That they don't need the freshest flowers or the darkest chocolate to be proud of their significant other. They still show them off. That's what Valentine's Day is truly about. Not all relationships sparkle like gold or smell like fresh linen. What works, works and that's all that matters.

There is no such think as the perfect boyfriend. But there is a type of boyfriend who fits what you desire most. Below are the 7 types you'll get on Valentine's Day.




1. The Copy Cat

Your Valentine's Day feels like Deja Vu? It's probably because you've heard a similar routine from a close friend or simply from past experience. The rose pedals, candles, music and home cooked meal were all shared on your best friend's Instagram last year.

The Copy Cat is not the most interesting man in the world. He buys the same flowers every year, has a saved 'Valentine's Day Playlist' on his iTunes, you can even predict the assorted chocolate he will buy. Hate to say it, but you'll probably end the night in the same sex position… Some guys shy away from creativity and innovation. Unfortunately, a hand full of THOSE guys carry these characteristics into a relationship. It's a lot easier to reenact a past event than to create something new. Something unique. Something memorable.

There are 2 breeds of The Copy Cat. One who steals ideas from others and one who recycles their own year after year. It's hard to say which is worse. You won't be getting any surprises with either. The Copy Cat is an ideal match for the woman who knows exactly what she wants, when she wants it.

Fellas - At the end of the day, it boils down to how long you've been in a relationship. The ONLY time it's ok to be The Copy Cat is if your first Valentine's Day falls before your one year. With that said, you should be trying your best to wow this new person in your life. Make your first everything memorable. If you've been dating for years now, you should be embarrassed to recycle.

Ladies - Don't allow this to be a reoccurring theme. Relationships require a certain level of effort. This could be a one time thing. If it is, appreciate the work he put in but realize you deserve the same energy you put into your relationship. I know you know the small things really make the difference.

#BestBoyfriendEver - Share this if you know you'll be spending Valentine's Day with a Copy Cat.




2. The Scientist

Take a seat, enjoy your glass of wine and be treated to some fine dining; prepared by him, The Scientist. No reservations. No stray hair from a strangers scalp found in your soup. You don't even have to worry about an awkward couple 2 feet away complaining that they couldn't get reso's to their favorite restaurant. Not tonight. Tonight, he wants some one-on-one time as he cooks with love, not experience.

It's an experiment. The Scientist never cooks, but tonight he's not afraid to learn along the way. Typically this guy doesn't go far from the microwave. However, for you he's trying to maneuver his way through the kitchen. Instead of making something simple, he's going to go all in. A nice meal has been Googled, printed off and prepped. Double the time the recipe suggests for the meal to be complete. This is going to take awhile so have the bottle of wine within reaching distance.

Unfortunately, the experiment he has been working on will probably taste awful.

The meat will be over-cooked, the pasta will be hard, and believe it or not he'll even find a way to ruin the salad. Don't allow your tastebuds to determine the outcome of this Valentine's Day. Appreciate the fact he's stepping out of his comfort zone to wow you. He could have made a simple recipe but he truly believes you deserve the best. That should be enough to make you smile and kiss the cook.

Fellas - Be sure you have a back up plan. An empty stomach can ruin the night. I recommend a frozen pizza. Your lady will find you charming for your effort and smart for preparing just in case. She'll probably even laugh when you tell her what else is on the menu. Plus the oven should still be warm.

Ladies - He means well. Sit back and admire that he's doing something nice for you. Someone who would rather attempt to make your favorite meal rather than pay for it is someone who actually looks forward to spending time with you. You've found a pretty good guy. Just swallow a few bites to show your appreciation before he throws in the Di'giorno.

#BestBoyfriendEver - Share this if you've spent a Valentine's Day with a Walter White.




3. The Credit Card

5-star restaurants, fillet mignon, aged-wine and sparkling diamonds are on the way. You must be something special to deserve all these fascinating things, right? Wrong. You're just sitting across from the man you will continue to expect more from as life goes on.

The Credit Card treats Valentine's Day as Christmas or a birthday. He believes showering you with gifts is the best way to express true love. These guys are typically the other half of men who lack creativity and innovation, they just have more money or credit to avoid becoming The Copy Cat. These are the guys who we can all thank for reshaping the perception of Valentine's Day. Marketers send these guys Thank You cards every February 15th.

Out of all the type of men on Valentine's Day, I feel the most sorry for The Credit Card. This poor bastard doesn't understand that closets become full, women only have 10 fingers, 2 ears and 1 neck, and she's not going to eat too much because she doesn't want to feel bloated during the night cap. Certain gifts only wow women for so long.

The Credit Card is the guy I'd like to put my arm around his shoulder and give some advice. No amount of money will really show someone how much you care for them. If you can afford luxury items while treating your significant other as if they're the only other person in the world, then keep swiping that thing. But if not, I promise you; not only will you be taken advantage of, you will also lose someone you initially cared for.

Fellas - Some woman really do deserve the best. This doesn't mean you should apply for a new credit card to impress the girl you've been seeing for a year. There should only be one woman that comes into your life that deserves that 5 figure diamond (6 or 7 figure if your a rapper, actor, or teacher…wait, what?), and that's your wife. Don't spoil these hoes with the most expensive flowers that will die in 7 days, or diamonds that she'll wear to dinner with her next boyfriend, or even that premium meat she'll take 3 bites of. If she's truly the one, the price tags really don't matter.

Ladies - I don't expect you to ask him to take these gifts back. I just want you to know the difference between a gift that will keep you from bitching and a gift that doesn't come with a receipt. Credit cards can be maxed out, so can your relationship. Don't be a materialistic woman and have pride in the fact you can't be bought.

#BestBoyfriendEver - Feel free to leave comments and share with friends. Also, please give examples of situations that I wrote about in this post. Especially if you still wear diamonds from an ex boyfriend.




4. The xx:59

It's the day of and you have no idea what he has planned for Valentine's Day. You don't know what to wear, the suspense is killing you and in the back of your mind you wonder if he's forgotten. Maybe he's just planned something truly special.

The xx:59 is my dude! He shouldn't be scowled for his lack of preparation. He should be applauded for his intuitiveness and quick decision making. Mr. Last Minute has been in this position before. Not only on a holiday or anniversary, but most likely throughout all aspects of life. It's not that he doesn't care, he just lives life without a daily planner. He can be found desperately searching threw picked over Valentine Cards trying to find the perfect one to express how he feels. He usually comes up with something just in time to make you feel special and forget about the stress caused from guessing which shoes to wear.

Some of us work best under pressure. We live for the thrill of completing the job seconds before it's due. The same goes for special occasions such as Valentine's Day. Confidence isn't the issue, it's allowing the unknown to open the doors to unlimited creativity. The xx:59 will never bore you. His unpredictable personality will continue to surprise year after year. There's no routine because he doesn't even know what's in store until the moments leading up to.

Fellas - Some of us can pull off the last minute Valentine's Day, some of us can't. If you can't, don't become a member of this club. There are certain events that require ample amount of time to plan. To really make this work, you can't do the stereotypical Valentine's Day ideas. Avoid all balloons, tilapia recipes, and heart shaped boxes of chocolate.

Ladies - If he pulls it off, you have no idea he put it together last minute. You've found someone who has the instincts to make something out of nothing. He doesn't need reservations, the freshest flowers, or even the cutest teddy bear to make you smile on Valentine's Day. He is unique and knows you well enough to work without much time. Just be sure to bring a few an assortment of shoes to prepare for anything.

#BestBoyfriendEver - Every single person can relate to The xx:59. Share stories and share this post.




5. The iForgot

You've been patiently waiting to see what kind of surprise he has in store for you. Is he taking you to a nice restaurant? Possibly making you dinner and spoiling you with a massage after running a warm bubble bath for you? Or maybe he's even going to take you somewhere romantic for the entire weekend? He's up to something right?

Probably not. More than likely The iForgot has been here before. Casually walking in the door as if it's just another day. No flowers, no chocolates, no balloon (that's a good thing) no nothing. This guy either has too much on his plate, or he simply doesn't give a damn. Maybe he confused Valentine's Day with Christmas and didn't think you deserved anything because you were naughty.

It's now a lot harder to forget a romantic holiday because of social media. Women don't allow men to forget. Their pins of romantic paradises, the Valentine articles they share on their Facebook, even women's tweets surround February 14th. Women subtly remind us in advance to prevent a blank canvas on Valentine's Day. They can't share how awesome their lover is and show off all the amazing things their boyfriend's have done for them if we forget. It's a new form of bragging.

Fellas - There are no words to help you in this situation. You just gotta do better. If you "forgot" because you wanted to send a message, wrong message bro. Not only does it embarrass your lady, but it will also embarrass you. This is your night to shine, make sure you have batteries.

Ladies - You deserve better, but at the end of the day it's just a holiday to glorify and celebrate romance. Hopefully your relationship allows you to experience romance every single day. If not, you're going to live a miserable life 364 days of the year.

#BeatBoyfriendEver - Feel free to share this post and tag who I would assume is now your ex boyfriend.




6. The Single

You've already Instagramed a meme expressing your hatred for Valentine's Day, you've text every single friend in your phone inviting them to get drinks later, and I know deep down, an ounce of you is still hoping someone surprises you with a bouquet of roses. We both understand that's probably not going to happen.

The Single is the creepy guy across the bar who just ordered you a drink, more than likely a cosmo. He's here for the same reason you are, well kind of. You've gathered your single friends to drown your loneliness on the most romantic day of the year. It's a support system. Together, you can mask the sadness of not having someone who romantically loves you. With each cheer's to being single followed by shooting a shot of Fireball, you begin to convince yourself you're happy to be single.

He's at the bar because he's done his research and understands that his chances of finding a single lady increases 338.43% on Valentine's Day. The Single also knows you're more willing to give him a chance because your desire to fill the hole in your life that is a significant other. He's single and at a bar for a reason. He's ruined a relationship in the past, he's in a long distance relationship now, or he never intends to be in one.

Or F*** it, we're all adults here. Chances are everyone in the bar right now walked through those doors hoping to get laid. A one night stand that at the very least will save you from spending the night alone. Who knows, maybe it could materialize and at this time next year this same jabroni could become The Copy Cat or maybe even The Credit Card and you'll live happily ever after. I doubt it. But please send me an invite to the wedding.

Fellas - Just because you're single and she's single, doesn't mean your brain should automatically solve a math equation resulting in sex. She's still a lady so treat her like one. If you've read this blog before, you know how I feel about buying women drinks. Don't do it unless it's your mother, girlfriend, date, sister, friend who is a girl, grandmother if she's still slamming brews, The First Lady, Beyonce, or Betty White. Random girls at the bar understand what you're doing. Instead of saving her a few dollars, give her true hope that she won't die alone. Introduce yourself.

Ladies - Please don't throw yourself at a 4 when you deserve a 9. Valentine's Day is just a bunch of bullshit anyway. The memes are funny and desperate, but you really don't need a man to show you how much you're worth. You're a rockstar and the only reason you're still single is because you've set standards for yourself (or you've really just let yourself go…). Your prince charming will come soon enough, and trust me when I say he won't the creepy guy buying you cosmos. He's the guy who has had his eyes on you for awhile now and you just have yet to notice… because he's too afraid to ruin it.


#BestBoyfriendEver - We've all been single on Valentine's Day! At least once… And most of us spent that night at the bar. If you have single friends, be sure to share this on the Tweeter, the Insta, the Facebook or whatever else you use. It could save them the embarrassment of sleeping with a douchebag.


(Ladies, don't be a Jen-nay)


7. The Cupid

You can't believe you've found someone who makes you feel like you're perfect the way you are. Embrace every minute you're spending with this guy. I've personally had the unfortunate experience of watching a lot of great women lose their spouse within the past year. I don't think there's anything more difficult to watch.

The Cupid bends over backwards to put a smile on your face. He does it not for the recognition or the Thank You's, he does it to see you smile. To see your eyes light up the moment you feel so appreciated.  The flowers, chocolate, dinner, genuine touch and planning were done because he truly cares. It's hard to tell what he's doing for you right now. Just know he's really thought this one out.

The Cupid has been all of the #BestBoyfriendEver types at one point. It's made him who he is today. It's opened his eyes to what's real and what seems right. He knows how valuable you are to his life. Don't take it for granted. Not everyone shows their emotion the same way. But The Cupid makes sure you get the softer side of him on Valentine's Day. Simply because he knows you deserve it.

Enjoy every minute of it. If he's making dinner tonight, it may not taste the best, but no one else in the world would have tried harder to make it perfect. The flowers he gives you, he placed gently in the front seat of his car to ensure not a single pedal fell off. And all he asks for is at least one piece of the chocolate in that box. Share!

Fellas - We don't do Valentine's Day for ourselves. It's the one day out of the year you should go the extra mile to make your woman happy. You should be treating it like a competition. Especially since women love the brag about what their guy does for them. Don't let your Valentine be the girl who posts a photo of Valentine themed M&M's and a heart shaped pizza. Deep down she doesn't think that shit's cute.

Ladies - I truly hope you get to spend the night with a permanent smile. Boys do a lot of stupid things and treat women without much respect before they become men. Chances are you've been a victim of a boy. I know I'm guilty of being one. Appreciate everything your man is doing for you on Valentine's Day, because even good guys don't always get good girls in return. Don't lose this one, latch onto him.

#BestBoyfriendEver - The Cupid should be shared not only because you adore him, but to entice other males to step their game up. Every guy should end Valentine's Day thinking he gave their lady the best. I want to know which one of the 7 you encounter today. Comment and share please!

I hope all of you reading this have a wonderful Valentine's Day. Life is supposed to be lived with love. If you can't achieve this throughout the year, at least try your best on February 14th. Do something to make someone feel special… even if you're doing it for all the wrong reasons...