(had their newest video up but YouTube took it done.... PISSED)
These 2 young ladies have made me realize two things...
1. I am now open to having a girl when I am ready to start a family.
(Don't even give me the whole, "you can't choose whether or not your child will be a boy or girl". I believe I can. I've done research. I've watched movies. It is possible. I have successfully trained my sperm to swim the other way for years. I'm sure I can manipulate which gender swims faster!)
For the longest time I was petrified of having a daughter. I mean... we are talking puberty, periods, boyfriends, birth control, shopping, paying for a wedding... the list really does go on. Growing up, my Mother provided the only estrogen throughout our home. I never had to look out for a younger sister. I never had to worry about seeing anything bloody in the bathroom trashcan/toilet. I was never really exposed to all the "baggage" that comes with being a girl. My mom was always a woman. I never looked at her as a girl. Women are different. To this day, I'm still convinced females don't fart. (Ladies, this doesn't mean you can prove me wrong the next time I see you. I WILL THROW UP)
As the years have passed, I have become more comfortable with the idea of having a little baby girl. The majority of my cousins have daughters. This has given me a small dose of experience dealing with toddlers. It has helped me understand its not that bad. They can actually be cute.
Although my cousins are all adorable and make me laugh, I seriously have to thank YouTube for providing me with endless videos that have convinced me I actually want a girl. From girls like Sophia Grace and Rosie to the little Amish looking girl from the Monster video where she says "i'll kick his ass". They have inspired me to someday retrain my female sperm and put them on a Michael Phelps workout regimen. Mostly because my little nugget will eventually relieve me of my duties in the kitchen when my parents host holiday dinners. Yes, throughout life my mom has used me as her assistant in the kitchen. I can slice and dice with the best of them. But I do look forward to passing my knife to thee next in line.
2. We can all learn something from children.
We tend to believe that it is our job as adults to teach the children of the world. We get so wrapped up in what we should be teaching them that we become blind to the lessons they can teach us everyday.
Don't be stupid... I'm not saying you should rely on a 5 year old to teach you Calculus. I'm talking about the fundamentals of life. There are certain norms that all babies are born with. I personally believe we tend to over-teach children. We want to mold them to be more like us. Don't get me wrong, I promise you my baby boy (yes, I will have one girl and one boy) will rock a bowl cut for the first 12 years of his life simply to show off his stellar cowlick. I hope he also has trouble pronouncing his R's. I even hope he throws temper tantrums to get what he wants. I would be lying if I didn't want him to be a mini-me.
Will he be? No friggin way! I will have no control over him. He will do things his way. He will have his own personal interests and his own taste. I doubt his favorite football team will be the Detroit Lions. He will probably hate the music I listen to. Playstation 3 will seem like an ancient artifact. He will make fun of the way I dress and think I'm weird because of the food I eat. He will turn a certain age and want to be as different as I am in every way. I can almost guarantee he will be embarrassed by me... I guess if he does all these things, in a strange way, he will turn out to be just like me. A unique individual who loves and respects his father but is independent enough to be his own person.
Children like Sophia Grace can teach you some things. Like not being afraid to stand out. Be excited about life. Don't let fear keep you from your dreams. Always have a side-kick. You're not too cool to dance. If you think you're a prince/princess then throw on a crown. Understand when an opportunity is in front of you. And if there is one thing that can fix a bad day, it's a smile.
I will remain open to learning lessons from my children. I hope you do the same!
My husband is deadly afraid of small children and the way they're raised. I showed him this video months ago and his first reaction was to be disappointed in the way this child was raised. He doesn't think this music and dancing is appropriate for such a small girl, even if she doesn't quite understand it yet.
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